Author: Carey Nieuwhof

You Bet Life Isn’t Fair, Kid!

Your kids have likely screamed 862 different versions of “That’s not fair!!!!” from their small lungs before their fifth birthday. Whether it’s a hug you gave her sister but not her, why her friend could get a new Elsa doll but she couldn’t, or why the other kids always seem to get more Lego than your son . . . kids have an inherent radar for fair, which usually means even. Which can also mean “I got a little more.” (Why is it only unfair if they got more than you did????) And we haven’t even gotten to dessert...

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When Parents Disagree About How to Enforce the Rules

So you might have noticed there’s this tension in parenting. The tension between the parent who wants to enforce the rules and the parent who wants to focus on the relationship. You know what I mean… One parent says, “It’s lights-out at the sleep over at 10 p.m.,” and the other parent, faced with pressure from her despondent ten-year-old daughter and not wanting to disappoint, lets the kids stay up until midnight because nobody likes a mean parent.

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Why You Should Have (Way) More Fun

Remember when you used to have fun? I know, it seems like it’s been a while. Maybe a long while. Sometimes parenting can seem like a burden. Even reading about parenting can make you feel like you need to button down and master 5 more parenting skills—which, sometimes you need to do. But in the process, you stop having fun. Your marriage isn’t as fun as it used to be. Your parenting is so stressed that you don’t laugh much. I spent the last few weeks having fun. My wife and I spent a little over two weeks celebrating...

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Tragedy

The news is heartbreaking enough to take in as a parent. Terrorist attacks. Mass killings. Planes blowing up. Beheadings. I know…please just stop right there. Add to that the political chaos that seems to dominate the headlines, climate change, job losses and more. It’s just too much to take some days, even for us adults. So as a parent, how do you even begin to engage these topics with your kids? Well, for starters, you can try to shield them, and that will work for a while. But shielding a child from life won’t actually prepare a child for...

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Why You Haven’t Completely Blown It As A Parent

Ever feel like you’ve completely messed up your kids, and now it’s too late to fix them? If you knew what you knew now when they were babies, you would have been such an amazingly better parent.  But you didn’t.  And now they’re wrecked. Or, at least warped.  Welcome to the club. I’m pretty sure 99% of all parents have been there. And we’re not actually sure the other 1% is human, in case you were wondering.  Whatever age your kids are, there’s a nagging regret in most of us that says if we had a healthier marriage, worked...

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