Author: Carey Nieuwhof

How to NOT Become the Distant Dad

So what do you do when your pre-teen or teen doesn’t want to hang out with you as a parent anymore? That can be a hard question to answer. In fact, while there’s a mountain of advice for parents of infants, often parents of pre-teens and teens can end up feeling more than isolated. When my friend Reggie Joiner and I were writing Parenting Beyond Your Capacity a few years ago, we went to a bookstore to check out the parenting section. What we found surprised us. We noticed there was a sea of books for parents (particularly moms)...

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Should You Let Your Kids See You Fight?

You may have already weighed in on the age-old parenting debate: should you let your kids see you fight? Clearly, the question springs out of the pain too many kids grew up witnessing. For sure, there are some things kids should never witness. And while God can use anything for good (and he does), I’m still not sure it’s great parenting to introduce kids to the depths of human depravity. As a result, some couples move in the entirely opposite direction: they don’t want their kids to witness any kind of conflict. But not everyone’s sure that’s the answer...

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3 Simple Time Hacks for Parents 

So you probably think you would be a much better parent if you had more hours in the day, don’t you? Bummer that life doesn’t work that way. When you have another child, it’s not like someone shows up and magically hands you another 4 hours a day. Nope, now you have to manage 100% more kids (or 50% or 25% more kids) with exactly zero extra time. No wonder parenting feels hard. To complicate things, time feels like it’s speeding up as your kids get older. Although some days feel like an eternity, as Sandra Stanley has often said,...

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3 Ways To Help Your Kid Push Past Fear

I’m going to guess you wish you had a little more courage as an adult, and maybe even as a parent. We all do. Fear isn’t just an emotion, it’s also a habit. Same with courage. Courage is a habit, and habits start young. Very young. So how do you raise a courageous child? There’s a difference between being courageous and being stupid (fear has a healthy side too). However, most kids today lose courage because fear creeps in early.

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You Bet Life Isn’t Fair, Kid!

Your kids have likely screamed 862 different versions of “That’s not fair!!!!” from their small lungs before their fifth birthday. Whether it’s a hug you gave her sister but not her, why her friend could get a new Elsa doll but she couldn’t, or why the other kids always seem to get more Lego than your son . . . kids have an inherent radar for fair, which usually means even. Which can also mean “I got a little more.” (Why is it only unfair if they got more than you did????) And we haven’t even gotten to dessert...

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