Author: Carey Nieuwhof

Why You Should Have (Way) More Fun

Remember when you used to have fun? I know, it seems like it’s been a while. Maybe a long while. Sometimes parenting can seem like a burden. Even reading about parenting can make you feel like you need to button down and master 5 more parenting skills—which, sometimes you need to do. But in the process, you stop having fun. Your marriage isn’t as fun as it used to be. Your parenting is so stressed that you don’t laugh much. I spent the last few weeks having fun. My wife and I spent a little over two weeks celebrating...

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Tragedy

The news is heartbreaking enough to take in as a parent. Terrorist attacks. Mass killings. Planes blowing up. Beheadings. I know…please just stop right there. Add to that the political chaos that seems to dominate the headlines, climate change, job losses and more. It’s just too much to take some days, even for us adults. So as a parent, how do you even begin to engage these topics with your kids? Well, for starters, you can try to shield them, and that will work for a while. But shielding a child from life won’t actually prepare a child for...

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Why You Haven’t Completely Blown It As A Parent

Ever feel like you’ve completely messed up your kids, and now it’s too late to fix them? If you knew what you knew now when they were babies, you would have been such an amazingly better parent.  But you didn’t.  And now they’re wrecked. Or, at least warped.  Welcome to the club. I’m pretty sure 99% of all parents have been there. And we’re not actually sure the other 1% is human, in case you were wondering.  Whatever age your kids are, there’s a nagging regret in most of us that says if we had a healthier marriage, worked...

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Kickstarting Your Relationship With Your Teenager

So, let’s just start by saying I’m not the most mechanically inclined person God ever created. But somehow that doesn’t exempt me from owning a garage filled with small engines: a snowblower, lawnmower, leaf blower, weed trimmer and the like.  My technique for starting these machines is always the same: push the buttons, prime the engine, and pull hard on the pull-cord. Most of the time my equipment starts.  When that fails, I pull the pull-cord harder and harder until I give up or call my friend John who fixes these kinds of thing to tell him they’re broken. ...

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How to Respond When Your Child Asks You Questions You Can’t Answer

So your kid comes up to you and asks, “Dad, how do we know there’s a God?” And you . . . freeze. You say something like “Because I believe there’s a God,” or “We just know,” or “Because there is,” or “Because the Bible says God exists.” Then your kid does what every kid does: he asks you another question. A tough one. Like Why? The little-kid routine of asking why seventeen times in a row can really expose how little you know as an adult. Then, in your mind, you fast forward a couple of years, and your middle-schooler is asking...

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