Author: Carey Nieuwhof

Should You Let Your Kids See You Fight?

You may have already weighed in on the age-old parenting debate: should you let your kids see you fight? Clearly, the question springs out of the pain too many kids grew up witnessing. For sure, there are some things kids should never witness. And while God can use anything for good (and he does), I’m still not sure it’s great parenting to introduce kids to the depths of human depravity. As a result, some couples move in the entirely opposite direction: they don’t want their kids to witness any kind of conflict. But not everyone’s sure that’s the answer...

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3 Simple Time Hacks for Parents 

So you probably think you would be a much better parent if you had more hours in the day, don’t you? Bummer that life doesn’t work that way. When you have another child, it’s not like someone shows up and magically hands you another 4 hours a day. Nope, now you have to manage 100% more kids (or 50% or 25% more kids) with exactly zero extra time. No wonder parenting feels hard. To complicate things, time feels like it’s speeding up as your kids get older. Although some days feel like an eternity, as Sandra Stanley has often said,...

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3 Ways To Help Your Kid Push Past Fear

I’m going to guess you wish you had a little more courage as an adult, and maybe even as a parent. We all do. Fear isn’t just an emotion, it’s also a habit. Same with courage. Courage is a habit, and habits start young. Very young. So how do you raise a courageous child? There’s a difference between being courageous and being stupid (fear has a healthy side too). However, most kids today lose courage because fear creeps in early.

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When Parents Disagree About How to Enforce the Rules

So you might have noticed there’s this tension in parenting. The tension between the parent who wants to enforce the rules and the parent who wants to focus on the relationship. You know what I mean… One parent says, “It’s lights-out at the sleep over at 10 p.m.,” and the other parent, faced with pressure from her despondent ten-year-old daughter and not wanting to disappoint, lets the kids stay up until midnight because nobody likes a mean parent.

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Why You Should Have (Way) More Fun

Remember when you used to have fun? I know, it seems like it’s been a while. Maybe a long while. Sometimes parenting can seem like a burden. Even reading about parenting can make you feel like you need to button down and master 5 more parenting skills—which, sometimes you need to do. But in the process, you stop having fun. Your marriage isn’t as fun as it used to be. Your parenting is so stressed that you don’t laugh much. I spent the last few weeks having fun. My wife and I spent a little over two weeks celebrating...

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