Author: Carey Nieuwhof

5 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Can Keep

If you’re like many parents, you’re busy making resolutions this week. I think that’s a great idea. But have you any made any resolutions related to your family? I’m a big fan of goals. Michael Hyatt outlines a number of compelling reasons you should actually write down your resolutions. The most persuasive for me is that you are 42% more likely to reach your goals if you write them down. I was reminded of that this past week. When cleaning out a my office, I came across a list of written goals from 4 years ago.  There were over...

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7 Ways To Get to Christmas Without a Total Meltdown

Instagram lies. Well, at least I’m sure it does at some point over Christmas.  When I see people posting pictures of how wonderful setting up the tree is and how magical the decorating was (okay, okay, I’ve done this…I’m guilty), it reminds me how often that process has not been an Instagrammable moment for me over the years. I would routinely be WAY overambitious in thinking I could accomplish both the outdoor decorating and putting up the tree in about 35 minutes flat, only to be incredibly frustrated when the process took far longer than the twelve days of...

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When You Feel Like a Total Failure as a Parent

One of my most dismal moments as a dad came a few years ago when my friend Reggie Joiner and I were writing our book, Parenting Beyond Your Capacity. When you write a parenting book, it’s tempting to think you need to have arrived, only because everyone who reads your book or asks you to speak on it assumes you have all the answers—which likely means I should stop writing books, now that I think about it.  But I digress. Back to my dismal day when Reggie and I were holed up in a condo overlooking the Gulf of...

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5 Ways to Prove You Love Your Kids

There’s an insecurity inside most of us that asks, “But, does he/she really love me?” It happens when you’re dating. Sometimes it still haunts you when you’re married. It follows you into your deep friendships. And it definitely makes its way into the heart of almost every child.  I have NO idea where this idea came from, but I remember being ten years old and thinking my parents paid my friends to be my friends. (I know, I know . . . that’s a few more thousand dollars in counseling to figure how I came to believe that ....

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Get to Know Them All Over Again

I have two sons. Two sons, two realities: One loves music. The other loves sports. One loves conversation. The other is a man of few words. They both like camping. My thinking went this way: of course I know them. They’re my sons. But then I lived a few years longer. And so did they. And I realized that as they’ve grown up, they’ve done more than just add years. They’ve added depth to who they are. Complexity. Nuance. In fact, I find that the older they get, the more I realize I have yet to learn about the person God’s...

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