Author: Carey Nieuwhof

Kickstarting Your Relationship With Your Teenager

So, let’s just start by saying I’m not the most mechanically inclined person God ever created. But somehow that doesn’t exempt me from owning a garage filled with small engines: a snowblower, lawnmower, leaf blower, weed trimmer and the like.  My technique for starting these machines is always the same: push the buttons, prime the engine, and pull hard on the pull-cord. Most of the time my equipment starts.  When that fails, I pull the pull-cord harder and harder until I give up or call my friend John who fixes these kinds of thing to tell him they’re broken. ...

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How to Respond When Your Child Asks You Questions You Can’t Answer

So your kid comes up to you and asks, “Dad, how do we know there’s a God?” And you . . . freeze. You say something like “Because I believe there’s a God,” or “We just know,” or “Because there is,” or “Because the Bible says God exists.” Then your kid does what every kid does: he asks you another question. A tough one. Like Why? The little-kid routine of asking why seventeen times in a row can really expose how little you know as an adult. Then, in your mind, you fast forward a couple of years, and your middle-schooler is asking...

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5 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Can Keep

If you’re like many parents, you’re busy making resolutions this week. I think that’s a great idea. But have you any made any resolutions related to your family? I’m a big fan of goals. Michael Hyatt outlines a number of compelling reasons you should actually write down your resolutions. The most persuasive for me is that you are 42% more likely to reach your goals if you write them down. I was reminded of that this past week. When cleaning out a my office, I came across a list of written goals from 4 years ago.  There were over...

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7 Ways To Get to Christmas Without a Total Meltdown

Instagram lies. Well, at least I’m sure it does at some point over Christmas.  When I see people posting pictures of how wonderful setting up the tree is and how magical the decorating was (okay, okay, I’ve done this…I’m guilty), it reminds me how often that process has not been an Instagrammable moment for me over the years. I would routinely be WAY overambitious in thinking I could accomplish both the outdoor decorating and putting up the tree in about 35 minutes flat, only to be incredibly frustrated when the process took far longer than the twelve days of...

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When You Feel Like a Total Failure as a Parent

One of my most dismal moments as a dad came a few years ago when my friend Reggie Joiner and I were writing our book, Parenting Beyond Your Capacity. When you write a parenting book, it’s tempting to think you need to have arrived, only because everyone who reads your book or asks you to speak on it assumes you have all the answers—which likely means I should stop writing books, now that I think about it.  But I digress. Back to my dismal day when Reggie and I were holed up in a condo overlooking the Gulf of...

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