Author: Parent Cue

What to Do When Your Child is Bullied

Bullying is a big deal. For kids and their parents. If you have ever been a victim or have children who are dealing with it, you know this. And it can be difficult to know what to do. What is normal in terms of kids just being kids? What is bullying? When do you take it seriously? How much do you get involved? I remember my 3rd grade teacher quoting the rhyme when we complained about hurtful words from our classmates, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Although we certainly wanted to toughen up and believe this was true, we still felt the painful sting of them. In looking for ways to help parents whose kids are dealing with bullying, we found the following article on Empowering Parents with advice from Peggy Moss, nationally known expert on bullying and author of Say Something. The article begins with a resonating truth that exists beneath the “sticks and stones” bandaid: “The injury is real when kids get teased — unchecked, it can be devastating.” The article continues and attempts to answers some crucial questions: “Are name-calling and teasing just part of growing up, a rite of passage that all kids go through? “Many people out there think that adults are making too much of a fuss about it, that we should leave kids to their own...

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Helping Kids Deal with Peer Conflict

As my 2nd grader exited the bus he walked toward me but looked away. Without uttering a word, I knew something was wrong. Rarely does my little guy greet me at the bus stop without offering a hug. On this day there was no smile, but rather a tear rolling down one cheek. My son resisted making eye contact. Together we walked back home and softly I said, “I know when something isn’t right. I want you to share with me what’s bothering you, even if you did something wrong. You know I will love you even if you made a bad choice. I’d rather know what’s going on so that we can work through it together.” It wasn’t long before pieces of the story began to escape. Somewhere along the way, my son’s seatmate decided he didn’t like my son. It was unclear how that sentiment evolved, but troublesome dialogue had emerged and escalated. To this point my son had done his best to address or ignore the stinging comments from his fellow bus rider. But on this particular day it was clear his attempts were unsuccessful. After gathering more details from the viewpoint of a seven-year-old, I wrestled with possible next steps. Was my son being bullied? And what would I do about it? My son declared his bus riding days were over. Yet for many reasons,...

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Cooperation Makes It Happen

By Jenna Scott Sesame Street was right, Cooperation makes it happen! As a mom of four, I can attest that chaos reigns when no one is getting along and everyone is trying to do their own thing. On the flip side, it knocks my socks off to see what can be achieved when everyone focuses their energy and cooperates. Here are a  few practical tips for parents to help their kids  start combining forces to do great things together. 1. Practice working together before you are in a “real” situation where cooperation is required. That way when it actually comes...

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Afraid of the Dark

by Sarah Anderson I am mama to a two-year-old who is going through a bit of a rough stage. He is becoming more aware of being alone at night. And he is afraid. Of the dark. Of strange noises and imaginary monsters. So in order to calm these prevalent fears, his dad and I have started assuring him that even though we aren’t in the room with him, God is. This platitude has become part of the bedtime routine. “It’s dark,” he asserts. “God is here,” we assure. Last night, my little guy prayed on his own. And when he finished we excitedly told him that God had heard all he had to say. My son looked at us expectantly saying, “God is here!” “That’s right!” we praised. To which my little guy asked, “Where’s His nose?” A great question. Because it reflected his unyielding trust in what we had been telling him. The issue wasn’t whether God was actually with us in the room. The issue was, if God was in the room, then why couldn’t we see Him? This morning I learned that a young mom I had never met passed away after a short, intense, battle with cancer. Her story resonated with me. I read an excerpt from an old blog post when, in a hospital bed, afraid, and grappling with the hand dealt her, she...

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A Supporting Role

By Jon Williams When I was growing up, I always remember how sports played a big role in the family. My dad had grown up playing High School baseball and football and my brother, who is eight years older, kind of followed in his footsteps. My brother did it all. Football. Baseball. Track. Soccer. He was a pretty good all-around athlete. Growing up, I always watched my dad attend my brother’s various sports competitions, and, if he got the chance, he would always end up being an assistant coach or head coach of the team my brother was playing on. Which was cool. Looking back, I see how that gave my brother and my dad some time to bond and something to talk about. Now, having my brother as my hero, I tried following in his footsteps. My dad was pretty jazzed to have me go out for various sports teams and when I made them, it was an instant bonding moment. I’m not a complete klutz or anything. I was somewhat athletically gifted. We connected like he and my brother did. But, then something happened. As much as I love sports, I found myself drifting toward another extracurricular activity in Middle and High School. Theatre. I loved it. I loved acting. I loved telling stories, and anybody who knew me then knew I loved to talk. So, theatre...

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