Author: Parent Cue

Guilt-less Lessons of Love

We all want to teach our kids to put others before themselves and treat others the way they want to be treated. But how in the world do you do that? That is, how do you do it without using “that” voice: the condescending, “feel guilty, feel very guilty, and now do what I tell you to do out of robotic obligation” voice? Recently my husband brought me a gift. The box was white, rectangular, and had an apple on the top. I couldn’t have been more excited even if it had been a jewelry box. It was a new iPhone. We didn’t really have money to spare for it, but he knew I had been longing for a phone with a better camera for family pictures and also for a year-long volunteer project I had committed to that needed to be done with excellence. Four days later when I pulled my brand new phone out of my purse to check the time, there was a hair on it. But the hair didn’t move when I brushed it. I squinted my eyes and looked closer then felt something in the pit of my stomach. It was a top-to-bottom crack. I was so upset, especially when I found out there was no repairing or replacing the phone without incurring a substantial expense. I. Was. Devastated. Later that evening, my daughter...

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Love…No Matter What

LOVE: Choosing to give someone your time and friendship, no matter what. In a few days, my family is headed on 14 hour road trip. We’ll pack up the car with snacks, “goodie bags” filled with books and games for the kids, and lots and lots of music for me. Because I’m the music-fanatic in our house, I’m the designated DJ for these trips. Today, while we were all relaxing on the beach, I began making the playlist—one of my most enjoyable, downtime activities. While I’m in the middle of this, my seven-year-old daughter comes up to me: “Dad,...

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Father's Day Giveaway

With Father’s Day quickly approaching, Orange Parents would like to honor all the dads out there, and we’d like to treat one with a special gift! There’s a saying that a dad is his son’s hero and his daughter’s first love. That’s kind of a lot of pressure for a dad, but there’s no denying the importance of a father’s love and attention for his children. There are some great dads out there who really enjoy spending time with their kids and daily foster those crucial relationships, but sometimes busy schedules and lack of creativity get in the way. Here’s a great resource to help fathers with daughters : 88 Great Daddy-Daughter Dates by Rob and Joanna Teigen. You’ll find practical ideas for fathers to spend quality time with their daughters. With supply lists and discussion starters, it’s perfectly designed for dads of girls ages 6-12. From this daughter’s perspective, fathers have an amazing opportunity to show girls how they should be treated and loved by others. One of my fondest memories growing up was how special I felt the night I got all dressed up in my peach flowered dress to go on a date with my dad. One lucky Orange Dad will receive a free copy of 88 Great Daddy-Daughter Dates along with some other Orange goodies! All you have to do is leave a comment describing...

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Just Trust Me

Liam and I had hit the pool at the local YMCA for his first round of swim lessons. It was one of those parent/child swim classes, and it seemed like everyone else’s child had jumped to their parent’s open arms. Except mine. Liam just stood there with that “there is no chance I’m doing this” face. Seemed like no matter what I said, he wouldn’t budge. Finally, I just blurted out, “I will catch you! Just trust me!” I’m not sure if he finally summoned the courage or just tired of my pestering, but he jumped into the pool and into my arms. No worries. No fear. Just a huge smile on his face. I’ve found that so much of parenting can be summed up in those three little words: “Just trust me.” Trust me, eating that king size candy bar in one sitting will make you sick. Trust me, you really do want to put on the bug spray. Trust me, having a TV in your room really isn’t the wisest choice right now. We say those words all the time. But if we look at trust as putting your confidence in someone you can depend on, we can’t just say the words “just trust me” and expect our kids to jump into our arms. We must actually be trustworthy parents. Easier said than done. I knew I would catch Liam when...

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Parenting is Wonder-full

Becoming a new parent. Is there anything more amazing? Is there anything more terrifying? Is there anything more wonderful? For some reason the very intelligent people at the hospital give you this tiny being to take home with you, just days after he has come into the world. There is no handbook written specifically for him. There are lots of “how-to” books about babies, but there isn’t one specifically for him. You come home with this tiny person, and you panic slightly. This very sweet nurse helped you put the baby in the car seat. How do you get him out? What about his neck? Is it going to break if you don’t hold it just right? When should I change his diaper? Now? Does he need to be changed now? Just as your breathing starts to come in short spurts, you look at your spouse and realize you’re not alone. You have people here to help you. God has placed people around you who are there to help you. God is there to help you. Breathe deep and relax in the grace and love that is your heavenly Father. Because now you finally have a glimmer of how much love He has for you. Look at that bundle in the car seat. Ease him out carefully and hold him in your arms. Sit in that gliding rocker that...

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