Author: Kristen Ivy

What Your Kid Isn’t Telling You

I was cutting out paper hearts with my four-year-old at the kitchen counter when it happened. You can imagine: craft paper spread out around us, Elmer’s glue, the class roster, all the essentials for making valentines to give to each friend in her preschool class.  Hensley, unlike some girls her age, has never shown any particular interest in boys. She reads, imagines, draws, dresses up, and plays with boys and girls alike. I guess secretly I liked that she seemed silent on the idea of romance. She is four, let’s not rush it. But then she gave herself away. “Mama,...

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Season’s Greetings

Top 10 reasons for sending a Christmas card 1. I don’t want people to forget about me. 2. I don’t want to get in trouble with my mom. 3. I want everyone to see that I lost weight this year. 4. I need to make at least one every year to put in our family album. 5. It’s part of my annual to-do list and I don’t think Santa can come unless I finish my list. 6. I got a really great coupon. 7. We took a cool vacation this year that I want people to know about. 8....

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The Stories of Childhood

“I can’t live like this anymore!” – said my two-year-old from her crib. It was one of those moments when my eyes got wide and my mouth literally fell open like a cartoon. My mind raced back through the past three minutes. What had I done to make my toddler suddenly feel the emotions of a thirteen-year-old ready to run away from home? Then it clicked. She was smiling and looking at me like this was a game. She was pretending. . . and that was a line from Frozen. Just how she remembered exact lines from a movie she...

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Mothers With No Babies to Hold

This past January I grieved alongside my sister the loss of my niece, our deeply loved little girl who was put into a body not meant for this world. Losing a child isn’t something that we talk about often because, really, what is there to say? When you lose a baby before they ever really come into your home, you don’t have a memory to go back to. You can’t talk about their life well lived. You can’t share stories about who they were. It’s a different kind of loss. And so often it becomes a silent loss. One...

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It’s Just a Phase…Don’t Miss It

If someone has ever told you, “It’s just a phase,” chances are it was intended as a consolation or a word of encouragement. More than likely, what they meant was, “Don’t worry. You can survive this. It won’t last forever.” When I first became a mother and my colicky son was crying for hours after each feeding I needed to know there was hope for a different tomorrow. I needed to know there would come a day when I didn’t smell like baby vomit and when the child I loved didn’t hate me for trying to feed him. There’s...

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