Author: Kristen Ivy

Season’s Greetings

Top 10 reasons for sending a Christmas card 1. I don’t want people to forget about me. 2. I don’t want to get in trouble with my mom. 3. I want everyone to see that I lost weight this year. 4. I need to make at least one every year to put in our family album. 5. It’s part of my annual to-do list and I don’t think Santa can come unless I finish my list. 6. I got a really great coupon. 7. We took a cool vacation this year that I want people to know about. 8....

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The Stories of Childhood

“I can’t live like this anymore!” – said my two-year-old from her crib. It was one of those moments when my eyes got wide and my mouth literally fell open like a cartoon. My mind raced back through the past three minutes. What had I done to make my toddler suddenly feel the emotions of a thirteen-year-old ready to run away from home? Then it clicked. She was smiling and looking at me like this was a game. She was pretending. . . and that was a line from Frozen. Just how she remembered exact lines from a movie she...

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Mothers With No Babies to Hold

This past January I grieved alongside my sister the loss of my niece, our deeply loved little girl who was put into a body not meant for this world. Losing a child isn’t something that we talk about often because, really, what is there to say? When you lose a baby before they ever really come into your home, you don’t have a memory to go back to. You can’t talk about their life well lived. You can’t share stories about who they were. It’s a different kind of loss. And so often it becomes a silent loss. One...

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It’s Just a Phase…Don’t Miss It

If someone has ever told you, “It’s just a phase,” chances are it was intended as a consolation or a word of encouragement. More than likely, what they meant was, “Don’t worry. You can survive this. It won’t last forever.” When I first became a mother and my colicky son was crying for hours after each feeding I needed to know there was hope for a different tomorrow. I needed to know there would come a day when I didn’t smell like baby vomit and when the child I loved didn’t hate me for trying to feed him. There’s...

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Broken Families Can Still Be Great Families

I have great parents. Don’t tell them I told you so. They would never believe I said it. Maybe that’s why I feel tense (maybe even a little defensive) anytime I can feel someone judging them. My parents divorced when I was in eighth grade, so I am “one of those” who is part of a statistic. I literally still remember one of my friends in high school quoting statistics to me about how “kids with divorced parents are 99% more likely to get divorced themselves.” (Okay, I don’t remember the percentage. I just remember how it was said...

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