Author: Kristen Ivy

Broken Families Can Still Be Great Families

I have great parents. Don’t tell them I told you so. They would never believe I said it. Maybe that’s why I feel tense (maybe even a little defensive) anytime I can feel someone judging them. My parents divorced when I was in eighth grade, so I am “one of those” who is part of a statistic. I literally still remember one of my friends in high school quoting statistics to me about how “kids with divorced parents are 99% more likely to get divorced themselves.” (Okay, I don’t remember the percentage. I just remember how it was said...

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Prove You Love Them

I love my kids. No one had to write a book or make a podcast or do a teaching series to convince me to love them. It happened the first time I felt them kick and squirm as they were growing inside me. It happened the moment they were born, when I held them for the first time and memorized every detail of their bald little heads. I love their giggles, their growing sense of humor, their personalities and their interests. When I think about my kids, there is a love inside that I honestly don’t know how to...

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Why Telling the Truth Matters

“Mama, why do we need to tell the truth?” That was the question my three-year old daughter Hensley asked me last night in the middle of our bedtime prayer. And by “in the middle of,” I mean that she asked it right on top of my praying what I thought was a pretty decent prayer. Regardless of the blatant disregard of our clearly spiritual moment, I thought she had a pretty reasonable question. Why do we need to tell the truth? Now, I have to admit, I knew where the question came from. My three-year-old is an absolute pathological...

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3 Practical Habits To Make Time Matter More

So time is moving. And it’s moving faster than you think. What does that mean for you as a parent? How can you make the most of the limited amount of time that you have with your kids? How can you make sure that time isn’t getting away from you? I certainly don’t know the answer to all those questions. But here are three pretty practical ideas that might be helpful: COUNT IT DOWN You don’t have to count down the seconds, or the minutes, or even the days. But maybe there is a value in counting your weeks....

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You Are Not Disqualified – Part 2

A few weeks ago, my friend Carey Nieuwhof posted this blog on Parent CUE. And as I read it I thought, “That’s everything I ever wanted to say to parents summed up in one title.” Actually, It’s everything I want to say to divorced or divorcing parents summed up in one title. Why divorced parents? Well, mostly because I know them. Whether it was their children’s marriage that ended, their parent’s marriage that ended, or their own marriage that ended, families who have been through a divorce have experienced some kind of feelings of failure. My own parents divorced when...

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