Author: Reggie Joiner

Don’t Miss it – Know Your Kids

The better you know your kids, the better you will be able to lead them. But here’s a problem. Your kids keep changing, which means their issues keep changing. Your kids are navigating an important journey from childhood to adulthood. So remember: You are not raising children. You are raising adults. As a parent, you have to resist the temptation to fix your child’s problems and learn instead to respond in a way that helps them grow. It starts with understanding how to stay alert to what is actually happening at every phase and learning how to read the...

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Every Kid is the Same

*Portions of this blog post are adapted from “It’s Just A Phase, So Don’t Miss It” by Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy.  Sure. Every kid is very different. And a lot of energy goes into exploring those differences. Every kid has unique . . . DNA Hobbies Quirks Tastes Styles Talents Opinions But what if every parent just started thinking about some different ways every kid is the same. For example . . . Every kid doesn’t think the same, but every kid has ability to reason. Every kid doesn’t feel the same, but every kid wants to be loved....

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Opposite of Gratitude

I’m not sure how to make anyone feel grateful. My parents told me that I should be grateful a number of times, but telling me to be grateful didn’t make me feel grateful. Honestly, there were times that I felt guilty because I didn’t feel gratitude.  I actually thought something was wrong with me. Why didn’t I feel grateful when I should feel grateful? Then at some point I grew up and made a simple discovery. “The emotion of feeling grateful doesn’t happen naturally. It is a result of the deliberate choice of demonstrating gratitude.” In other words, you...

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Raising Adults

You are not raising kids, you are raising adults. The point is there is a countdown to adulthood that is happening for toddlers and teenagers, and the clock is not going to stop. The real question is what kind of adults are you raising? That question should motivate us to start relating to our kids with an end in mind. Here’s a profound thought: If you want your children to become responsible adults, then give them responsibilities now. I’m sure that may seem like an over-simplistic cliché, but there is a tendency for many of us to over-parent and...

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Imagine the End

Most parents can’t give their children a lavish inheritance, but every parent will leave a personal legacy. With the excess that surrounds most of us, a lot of families get sidetracked from what really matters. We become so preoccupied with giving kids an inheritance that we forget the significance of leaving a legacy. Sometimes I just have to be reminded that what I give to my children or what I do for my children is not as important as what I leave in them. Isn’t it interesting how “stuff” can distract us from what is really valuable? Too often,...

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