Author: Reggie Joiner

Raising Adults

You are not raising kids, you are raising adults. The point is there is a countdown to adulthood that is happening for toddlers and teenagers, and the clock is not going to stop. The real question is what kind of adults are you raising? That question should motivate us to start relating to our kids with an end in mind. Here’s a profound thought: If you want your children to become responsible adults, then give them responsibilities now. I’m sure that may seem like an over-simplistic cliché, but there is a tendency for many of us to over-parent and...

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Fight For The Heart

Hannah is our first-born daughter, and she has a lot of leadership potential. That’s just another way of saying that she challenged the process a lot growing up in our house. I distinctively remember having a conversation with her one night when I was tucking her into bed. It was one of those days when there had been a lot of conflict, and she had gotten in about as much trouble as a five year old can. For some reason I was compelled to ask her a question right before I turned out the lights. I said, “Do you...

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Imagine the End

Most parents can’t give their children a lavish inheritance, but every parent will leave a personal legacy. With the excess that surrounds most of us, a lot of families get sidetracked from what really matters. We become so preoccupied with giving kids an inheritance that we forget the significance of leaving a legacy. Sometimes I just have to be reminded that what I give to my children or what I do for my children is not as important as what I leave in them. Isn’t it interesting how “stuff” can distract us from what is really valuable? Too often,...

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Time to Refuel

Sometimes the most important thing that can happen in your kid’s life is what happens in your life. For me, the race to nowhere started at age seventeen. I took extra courses in high school, played varsity baseball, worked two jobs, and traveled with a music group. When my grades started slipping, my Latin teacher confronted me after class. Mrs. Culbreth said, “If you don’t slow down, you’re gonna burn out by thirty.” I laughed, patted her on the shoulder, and got busy doing more important stuff. I remember wondering as I walked away, “Why thirty?” I completely forgot...

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One Question Every Daughter Should Answer About Dating

I have three daughters. So I have been through the ups and downs of dozens of dating relationships at our house. And now that my daughters are in their twenties, I think it may be safe to talk a little about what I experienced watching them date as teenagers. I can honestly say, for the most part, I enjoyed building relationships with a number of guys they dated. There were actually times when I was sad when one of the girls broke up with a boyfriend because I kind of had to break up with him too. (I wish...

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