New York Times best selling author, Dr. Gary Chapman, joins host, Carlos Whittaker, to talk about how to discover the five ways your children interpret love based on insights from his popular book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.

YOUR CUE

  • Observe your kids. Take some time this week to pay close attention, ask questions, and begin to discover your child’s love language.  Then do something intentional to communicate love in the language they understand best.
  • Check in on your kids regularly. Ask your kids this question, “On a scale of one to 10, how full is your love tank? What can I do to help fill it?”
  • Wrap discipline in your child’s love language. Your child will receive your discipline better when they understand they are loved. When disciplining your child, make sure to use that opportunity to still show them love in the way they understand.

EPISODE RECAP

It’s likely most of us have heard about Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, and some of us would dare to reveal its contents helped save our marriages. So naturally, being a podcast to help parents do life better with our kids, we’d jump at the chance to talk to Dr. Chapman about how we can extend that knowledge loving our kids better.

All of our kids experience and show love differently, and for families with multiple kids, it’s likely one kid has a way of understanding love that is different from their sibling. As parents, it’s easy — and sometimes safer — to treat all of our kids the same way, but Dr. Chapman says it’s imperative parents communicate love in the specific way their child understands it.

“The question is not, ‘Do you love your children?’ The question is, ‘Do your children feel loved?” Dr. Chapman asks.

The five ways children and adults interpret love fall into these five categories (or love languages):

  • Words of affirmation
  • Gifts
  • Acts of service
  • Quality Time
  • Physical touch

In today’s episode, Dr. Chapman shares how parents can discover what their child’s love language is, how to discipline while using your kid’s love language, and what parents have to lose if they don’t start showing their kids love in the way they understand it.

 

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Heather Whittaker

DR. GARY CHAPMAN

Author of the #1 NY Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series and the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc.

Carlos Whittaker, Parent Cue Live Host

CARLOS WHITTAKER

Carlos is an author, speaker, and content creator living in Nashville, TN with his wife Heather and 3 kids Sohaila, Seanna, and Losiah. He is addicted to social media, his wife’s enchiladas, and is determined to have his daughters teach him to land a backflip on the trampoline by the time he is 45.

Kristen Ivy - Parent Cue Live Host

KRISTEN IVY

Kristen is the Executive Director of Messaging at Orange, Director of The Phase Project, and co-author of Playing For Keeps and It’s Just a Phase – So Don’t Miss It. She combines her degree in secondary education with a Master of Divinity and lives with her husband, Matt, and their three children, Sawyer,  Hensley, and Raleigh, in Cumming, GA.

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