Out of the Box
Have you ever noticed that we tend to put ourselves in a box? Think about it. It’s so easy to define ourselves by specific things or circumstances that show up in our lives. In my personal box, there’s my incredible wife, my two teenage sons, my house, my job as a...
A House Divided
It used to frustrate me as a kid. I would ask my parents if I could stay up later than my bedtime to hang out with my friends. If I didn't get a "No," I would usually get "I have to check with your dad." Having a devious kind of mind, I would go to my dad before my...
5 Ways to Overcome Child-Centered Parenting
We've already seen that child-centered parenting maybe isn't the best approach to parenting. A child who grows up to believe she is the center of the universe will have a far more difficult life than a child who grows up to understand she has a place among many in the...
Love…No Matter What
LOVE: Choosing to give someone your time and friendship, no matter what. In a few days, my family is headed on 14 hour road trip. We’ll pack up the car with snacks, “goodie bags” filled with books and games for the kids, and lots and lots of music for me. Because I’m...
Have Patience
When I was a kid my mom taught us a song about a snail named Herbert who needed to learn to have patience. Being the awesome big sister that I was, I often sang it to my brother whenever he was getting impatient. Of course, this always helped to bring him...
She Laughs at the Time to Come
April is National Autism Awareness Month. Autism is a condition which is now thought to affect a staggering 1 in 88 children. With so many parents and families affected by an increasing rate of autism, we wanted to highlight a few stories this week on Orange Parents,...
What Every Son Needs from His Dad
I have sat down with a lot of guys in their thirties who are trying to piece together the story of their relationship with their dad. Many of these guys are successful, but there's something missing inside of them. I'll never forget one guy I'll call Josh, near the...
What Every Dad Should Know About His Daughter
Several weeks ago I was dropping my daughter off for a birthday party. As I was leaving a man stopped me asking for directions. He was standing with one of my daughter's school friends. Immediately recognizing her, I put my hand out and introduced myself explaining...
Growing Roots Deeper
by Cara Martens I’ve got to be honest—I’m more of a planter and less of a water-er. Around this time of the year, I begin to get a little itch to add some color to my world. With great care and excitement, I check out all the local offerings of plants—looking for just...
Five Ways to Fight Entitlement in Your Kids
Like most parents, you feel this terrible tug. On the one hand, you want to provide your child with every advantage. On the other hand, sometimes it feels like when you do that, you're feeding an incredibly unhealthy characteristic in our culture. For whatever reason,...
5 Ways to Build Integrity as a Parent
The more integrity you have as a parent, the more your kids will appreciate your leadership in their lives. Don’t get me wrong, having integrity doesn’t mean everything goes swimmingly as a parent. It’s just better for everyone in the end, and you end up becoming far more of the person God intends you to be. So, how do you build integrity? Here are five suggestions that can help you build integrity as a parent.
Is Technology Killing Your Family?
I kind of like technology. You might say I'm a bit addicted. Three people live in our house–me, my wife, and our teenage son. Ten years ago, we had one family computer that sat in the living room, and I had a laptop for work. Today, between the three of us, we have...