Author: Tim Walker

Parenting Isn’t a Formula

I’m not going to pretend that this parenting thing is easy. That if you do all the right things, everything works out great. Because people don’t work that way. Relationships don’t work that way. If you combine A+B, you don’t always get C. That’s the way algebra works, not parenting. Sometimes parenting means walking through some smelly, ugly stuff. Sometimes you lie awake in bed, pleading with God to protect, to change, to stir the heart of your kid. Sometimes you grieve for the child you once knew. Or the relationship you once shared. Because as much as we...

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I Am Not a Fun Guy (or a Fungi)

I saw myself on the screen the other night. I wasn’t on the jumbotron at the baseball game. I wasn’t starring in a home movie. No, I saw myself in a movie character. An unlikely one. And the irony is that it was the antagonist of a movie that I watched years ago. I have become the bad guy. The move was What About Bob? The characters are Bob, a neurotic, psychosis-filled man who stalks his psychiatrist, while on vacation with his family. While the word “stalk” makes it sound like it’s a thriller, it’s actually a comedy, and Bob is very likable. Everyone...

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When It’s Up To Them

Some days don’t turn out the way you planned. Some lives take a different course than expected. I think that’s the hardest part of being the parent of a Junior or Senior. Or even a young adult. You guide, you direct, you help where needed, but ultimately the choice is up to them. You may think you have a part in the decision, but it’s up to them . . . to look both ways in the intersection. to do that project. to dream of what they would want to do or be. to take the SAT. to make...

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Resolving to Endure

I ran a 5k once. Once is the operative word. I might do it again some day when the faint smell of impending death finally leaves my nostrils. The race was fine, it was the runner who had a problem. I had always wanted to do it and wondered if I could. So when I turned 40, a friend of mine said he would run it with me. His company put on an annual 5K as a fundraiser for a local charity, and he had done it before. So with the promise of a running buddy, I signed up....

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How to Embrace Mystery

When I was a kid, I wanted to be Joe Hardy from The Hardy Boys. Well, to be perfectly honest, I wanted to be Shaun Cassidy portraying Joe Hardy. There’s an awkward photo of me in a jacket with the sleeves pulled up, shorts and high white socks to prove it. I’m not going to post it on here, I know how social media works. But I also loved the Hardy Boy books. I would scrape together my allowance to buy the next copy and then devour the book. My collection wasn’t extensive, but I treasured the ones I did have. I still have...

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