Author: Brooklyn Lindsey

Coaching Friendship

Imagine a parent of a child you know approaching you. “Can (insert their child’s name) and I speak with you and (insert your child’s name) privately for a minute?” Maybe this kind of “confrontational” conversation raises your blood pressure? I know it raises mine. Thoughts spiral and I become anxious: “What did my child do?” “How will it affect them?” “How will it affect me?” But what if situations like this are the perfect opportunity for us to give something very valuable to our children? What if the temporary discomfort of having a friendship conversation could lead to a...

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Being Present During the Awkward Years

Last week, I was sitting with a group of teenagers at a retreat in the mountains. The high school guys at the table were humoring the youngest in their group. You could tell this was their role, to laugh with this kid, a middle schooler, sometimes at him, but also protecting him in a way. This made me smile on the inside. The kid was inquisitive, smart, no-filter-honest, and confidently quirky. He owned most of the conversation at our table. During our meal, he would interject the funniest quips and remarks. All the while, the high school guys would...

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3 Qualities of a Serving Family

Have you ever wondered what makes people who enthusiastically serve others good at it? And how do they find the time or energy? We feel like the only thing we’ve been serving lately are the pickups and drop offs, and a frozen pizza dinner. Working with volunteers and leaders in my community (many of them parents) gives me a hope, because I see a lot of people who really get what it means to serve. They love in ways that are selfless and give in ways that are sacrificial. Even while juggling carpools, errands, activity schedules, pets, change, school,...

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Fight For Their Heart

Parents don’t usually post pictures of their kids on the second day of school. That made me consider taking another set of pictures this year, one at about 6:30 PM every evening on that first week to show a side of our family that we may not be particularly excited to display. Maybe it sends a more powerful message when we elevate those moments, too. We can show we are fond of them, fighting for them when we aren’t afraid to let the reality of the second day or the third or the twentieth day of school be truly...

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Through the Tough Decisions

During my first year of youth ministry, my husband and I had siblings that were also teenagers. My youngest sister would tell you that my role in her life was more similar to one of a parent than it was a sister. Sometimes, my sister felt like my own child, someone I did my best to look after. So, when she made a choice that would drastically change the landscape of her future, I felt responsible. I felt like I hadn’t done enough to help her navigate toward making a better choice. I felt guilty for pouring my life...

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