Author: Brooklyn Lindsey

Compelling Your Kids to Serve

There’s a film adaptation of Louisa May Alcott’s autobiographical novel Little Women that includes a moment when Jo, the heroine, receives criticism from her German professor on her first novel… “It is not written from your heart, it is not written from your soul; when you have courage enough to write truthfully, then your work will be worthy of you.” This moment has nudged me, pushed me, pulled me to weigh how truthful I’m being when I write. I used to think being truthful was easy but I think great writers know how difficult it actually is. I still...

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Giving Your Kids Permission to Break the Rules

“Resist much, obey little.”― Walt Whitman It’s really not the advice I thought I would pass to my daughters when I imagined them before they were born. Even so, as I walked the streets of Brooklyn tonight, a grown adult, wife and mother of two, I felt Whitman’s words as wisdom reverberating as truth. Resist much. Obey little. I think about how I am alone on this sidewalk and how being in my thirties doesn’t change the fact that sometimes I’m afraid to walk down a street—because words, because eyes, because force. Because, what if . . . Vulnerable?...

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Coaching Friendship

Imagine a parent of a child you know approaching you. “Can (insert their child’s name) and I speak with you and (insert your child’s name) privately for a minute?” Maybe this kind of “confrontational” conversation raises your blood pressure? I know it raises mine. Thoughts spiral and I become anxious: “What did my child do?” “How will it affect them?” “How will it affect me?” But what if situations like this are the perfect opportunity for us to give something very valuable to our children? What if the temporary discomfort of having a friendship conversation could lead to a...

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Being Present During the Awkward Years

Last week, I was sitting with a group of teenagers at a retreat in the mountains. The high school guys at the table were humoring the youngest in their group. You could tell this was their role, to laugh with this kid, a middle schooler, sometimes at him, but also protecting him in a way. This made me smile on the inside. The kid was inquisitive, smart, no-filter-honest, and confidently quirky. He owned most of the conversation at our table. During our meal, he would interject the funniest quips and remarks. All the while, the high school guys would...

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3 Qualities of a Serving Family

Have you ever wondered what makes people who enthusiastically serve others good at it? And how do they find the time or energy? We feel like the only thing we’ve been serving lately are the pickups and drop offs, and a frozen pizza dinner. Working with volunteers and leaders in my community (many of them parents) gives me a hope, because I see a lot of people who really get what it means to serve. They love in ways that are selfless and give in ways that are sacrificial. Even while juggling carpools, errands, activity schedules, pets, change, school,...

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